George and Arlene

George and Arlene Warfield were the Burns and Allen of our block growing up, but unwitting and without the humor. Their kitchen seemed to swallow the rest of the house whole, the action in their hovel centering on their breakfast nook at all times. Mom and Dad visited often back in my formative years.  My sister and I occasionally in tow, they lubricated their friendship with the Warfields around the table there with the aid of strong drink interrupted only by muttered mundane conversation (much of it forgotten before it was uttered).  I spent many an hour observing this ritual from my vantage point as a toddler in the corner, soda pop in hand and their cigarette smoke swirling around my head.

George was both deliberate and reserved with a working man's gait to match his garb while Arlene loomed loquacious, her cartoonish features drifting somewhere between Eve Arden, Lucille Ball and melting candle wax.  I remember with horror the times she bent down to kiss me on the cheek, the gobs of excess lipstick smearing across my face and the stink of her perfume burning my sinuses.  I can think back across forty years and smell it still.

In my earlier years our family made the trek down the block three houses to George and Arlene's place for New Year's Eve.  My sister and I watched the tube in the living room while the adults boozed it up in that kitchen, then we'd all rendezvous at midnight to bang pots and pans on the front porch.

George wore his blue collar like a priest's vestment, central to his being.  That being said, I wasn't exactly sure where he worked or what he did.  If George was reserved, Arlene was aggressively kind and this quality frightened me no end. I stayed over at their home for several days on one occasion when my folks went out of town and it was a surreal experience, much of that owed to this smothering affection, very different from my home life in ways even now I couldn't qualify.  It wasn't that my parents weren't affectionate (that wasn't one of their failings); rather, it was that the folks were specifically affectionate while Arlene (and George) did it as a general part of who they were.  They seemed alien to me, the Warfields; consequently, I felt ill at ease around them.

My parents grew apart from George and Arlene after my Mom's stroke immobilized her and my Dad's alcoholism spiked, his body abandoning him to the couch and the bathroom and stumbling distance between the two.  The Warfields liked to drink just fine but they weren't part of my Dad's bourbon brotherhood, weren't fellow travelers on his bullet train to Cirrhosisville (though maybe they occasionally rowed a slow boat on the journey in that general direction).

One of the things I found odd in this relationship was that I don't recall a single time the Warfields made the trek up to our house.  I'm sure they did, but the relationship didn't flourish in this setting. They were merely background fodder in our domain; others took center stage here.  No, the relationship was rooted in a single direction - south, down the block, their place.  And my folks just couldn't make the journey anymore.

George and Arlene have surely since gone on to their great reward but are forever frozen in time for me, suspended in the animation that was our neighborhood in early 1970's North Everett.   They represent that time and place in my mind along with a select few others, as surely as 8-track tapes and Lincoln Logs.

I might have been closer (in aspiration) to the Dwyers but they were practically another species on the evolutionary scale of families.  Foreign yet familiar, the Warfields were more within striking distance. The missing link up from our prehistoric depths of dysfunction.